The first and most important update is that the venue is finally confirmed. But oh how this adventure has taken some turns and risks through red lights! From my past blog entry, (Venues, venues, venues! Stress Update) I explained how rushed and overwhelmed I felt by a sales lady who basically told me to act now and think later. My process is complete and there were several lessons I learned that many brides and grooms can learn from. Check out my top three rules in landing your perfect venue.
Rule #1: If you can’t take your sales rep around your mother’s house, why would you want to work with them?
I looked into several venues after my initial scare on the one I wanted. We looked at the 5 star hotels, the do-it all banquet halls and renovated, modernized sites that where full of vintage character. The location is half as important as the staffing. Depending upon your theme, you want to make sure that the location has the same flare that you want to present. However, don’t be blinded by the location. Get to know the Rep. Are they on time? Are you number one on their list (at least for that time period)? Or are you just another dollar sign? Watch for signs of tardiness, miscommunications and attitudes. Remember you are the customer and you deserved to have top flight treatment not the other way around.Rule #2: Use your poker face during your meetings but once you are ready to sign on the dotted line show your winning hand.
This rule is one rule that many have advised me to do. It’s ok to pursue the place that you really want but be sure not to let them in on how bad you want it. Sometimes in those situations, reps may try to take advantage of your eagerness and you will miss out on some good negotiation opportunities. Try to stay neutral when you are reviewing the place. Ask many questions, even those questions you think you have the answer too. Make them work to sell you, even though you may have already sold yourself. Once you make the decision that this is it, negotiate, negotiate, and negotiate!!! You should always try to stretch your dollars as far as they can reach within the budget. Here are some areas to be sure to negotiate on:
- Dinner: If you decided it is okay to have kids at the reception, be sure to have theirmeals discounted. Set an age limit for the adult menu and work from there. It helps to already have your guest list segmented by Adults, teenagers, and kids.
- Bar: There are so many ways to negotiate the bar if you choose an open bar. Be sure to take into account those members of you family that will not drink and any kids. Also you may be able to cut down on hours by doing wine only during dinner.
- Vendors: Be sure to ask for their referred vendors to find additional discounts.
Rule #3: Stray away from buyer’s remorse!
Buyer’s remorse is the worst feeling to have, especially after a large purchase. Unfortunately, once you put your deposit down that is it. Be active in your decision making. You should research the place like you worked there and grill the rep to get all the details that you need to make the best decision. Just like the usual decisions in life, you may have to give and take on a couple details but be confident in your decision. It’s your day! Live it! Love it!
