- Stop.Look.Stop. - Stop what you’re doing and thinking and take a good look at everything in its current state. Then shut the shop down and figure out how to better manage the costs you have. Cut off the guest list, stick with your current floral arrangement, and don't stress the details you can't get too. Believe me, you may worry about the "what ifs" but no one else attending will. Don't cause more stress then you need.
- Utilize your wedding party - If you're lucky like I am, you have a group of people who are not only willing to help but who are dying to participate more in the process. You are only one person so figure out what other tasks you can delegate. Can someone go look at wedding party vehicles? How about scouting out a bakery that they like for a cake? Does anyone work at a retailer where they can look for jewelry? Work smarter not harder and your party can definitely make you look like a genius.
- NO is not a bad word - Sometimes it's easier just to say "yes" so you don't have to worry about anything but usually that yes does cause more worries...money pains. Get a little tough, put your foot down, and say it loud and proud "No"! Now I will say you don't want to get on a Bridezilla tangent by yelling no every second to every person but be reasonable and stand strong.
- Reality check - Remember what the day is about and that it is just that...a day. It is one of the most important days of your life but that just means that life moves forward after it is all over. Your wedding will be beautiful, awesome, fun and every other adjective you want to use as long as you inspire it. No matter how big or small, cheap or expensive it may turn out to be, you and your mate are the keys to having the day you want. If you exude how you want the atmosphere to be like (romantic, fun, funny, elegant, etc.) your attendants will follow.
Happy wedding hunting!